Am I getting old? Are manners thing of the past? Are the words like “Thank you and Please” gone forever? The word courtesy is not even in the modern day dictionary. Is anyone teaching our children to use these words? When someone takes the time to say a simple thank you, it makes you feel more valued, that whatever you did for this person was appreciated.
Do any of you remember Carol Kings song “you’ve got to get every morning with a smile on your face and show the world all the love in your heart…” Don’t you feel different when someone greats you with a smile? When there is some positive energy about you don’t you feel inspired? A simple smile a courtesy, a please and thank you goes a long way to making our day a more pleasant one.
We are coming up to the big busy Christmas season, where everyone and their dog is out shopping. It is crowded and noisy and you can’t find anything that you want to buy. Frustration grows, you are a reasonable person but this lineup is way too long, and the sales clerk is no help and you can’t find that perfect gift and everyone is in a hurry AAAARRRRGGGGG
Courtesy goes out the window. It is like a domino effect. When one person is in a bad mood it affects everyone else, the vibe around you are oppressing, and suddenly you can’t stand to shop anymore. Here are some tips to help you through this hectic season.
1: Do not leave it all to the last moment, plan at least 2-3 trips to different stores and allow yourself the time to look around before just buying.
2: Do as much research as you possibly can, like looking in flyers, magazines, T.V ads, get some ideas of what you want before you go.
3: Even ask the person that you are buying for, to give you a list of items that they want, and choose something from that.
4: Try not to go on the weekends, dinnertime is good (if your stores are open late during this season) because everyone else is eating. You can have a tranquil dinner later knowing that your shopping is out of the way. Always allow for a coffee/tea/booze break so as to replenish yourself.
5: If you have no idea what to buy your teenage niece or nephew or sons and daughters get them certificates, they love to shop after Christmas when the sales are on (but for your own kids also get a little gift that is personal like jewellery, tickets to a concert something that shows them that you made an effort, that means you care). As for the younger ones, ask their mum, failing that books, movies, music and colouring stuff are always good. Babies, educational toys for the age of the child are always a good idea.
6: Wives, do not get her something for the house, if you buy for the house give to the house, for your wife it must always be something that makes her feel loved and valued. Jewellery, nightgowns (get the size right) a beautiful romantic scarf, a Spa date, a weekend with friends, tickets to a fabulous dinner and show, music or books that she really likes. Remember you live with this woman, give her a gift that says that you love her and know her, or you will pay the price later. All a women want is to know that you have made the effort. 7. Husbands, is it sports, tools, new tech? they love it all, but again something very intermate that shows him it is especially for him from you telling him he is loved.
For your mums/dads, it is the same thing; it is not the big price tag the means so much, but the thought and effort that you put into it. Family movie, Photo album, and evening out or trip away, music or movie a new book.
7: Ladies, your man wants to know how you feel about him too, so buy something practical because he will value the practical side of you, but also something sexy and a little off the wall so he knows that you still want to have fun.
8: In-laws are difficult to buy for, so play it safe, unless you know them well. Buy something Christmassy like a Christmas cake, bottle of good wine/brandy/champagne. Chocolates are great to give if they like the brand. Christmas decoration for the tree is good, so that they can remember you every year.Again a family video of the year, photos and a dinner certificate, Calendars also, they can have one in each room. Take heed of religious convictions and never buy anything that can offend.
9: Now when you give them their gifts and you hear, “ You should not have” always say, “ Of course I should, you are worth it.” And when receiving a gift, even if you don’t like it, always say, “thank you for the effort that you put into this gift, I feel very special”
COURTESY it is one of our biggest assets, it cost nothing, but it goes a long way, and is always appreciated. So when someone this year has taken the time to make an effort to do something for you, feel appreciative, and acknowledge the time and energy that it took to such a thing, and be grateful that you are the recipient. If you cannot reciprocate in material things at least reciprocate in time and effort. Time is very valuable and this will always be appreciated.
REMEMBER THE HOMELESS, LONELY, FORGOTTEN, GIVE A GIFT OF LOVE, FOOD, CLOTHING, TREAT, CANDY, AND RESPECT.
Here are some gift ideas I recommend.
“The Repossession” and its sequel “The Hunting”, and The Heaviness trilogy a great gift for young adults, its dark adventures and unpredictable http://www.samhawksmoor.com
Guest and hosts books and tools that would make a great gift any time.-ask-sara-hostguest-books-for-christmas-pt-2/
A show on books and gift ideas
An Educational on-line safe program for 3-7 year olds called Cackleberries . http://www.cackleberries.com
Tracy MacGee “Hurry Before the Snow Flies” touched me profoundly, her journey is extraordinary and one of triumph, a must read as it is a story of love, family and courage. www.twowolfdancing.com
So this year when you are around that Christmas table, eating turkey sipping wine and just getting merry, don’t forget to thank the people that made it happen, smile be of great cheer, don’t let the outside world in, just be glad of what and of whom you have in your life
I wish every one of the world peace, love respect, value and a positive outlook on life.
Most Importantly Christmas is about faith in mankind and goodwill and love towards mankind, so show the love and leave no one out no matter the faith, come together in goodwill and cheer.
I wish you all a wonderful Festive season filled with family, friendships, love and a joyous spirit. Remember the lonely and the hungry and a gift of acknowledgement that you care goes a very long way.
May your Christmas be filled with joy, my gift to you is this wonderful song
My gift to you