What is Self Discovery Media about?

Self Discovery Media, is a podcast network filled with wisdom and inspiration rom those who have walked the walk.?  Sara Troy is the producer and host on Self Discovery Media, and is proud of what we are bringing to you.

 I started on a radio blog called Authentic You, doing live shows, now with my own station going into its 9th year (it was PLV Radio before) we have over an 2900 shows under our belt and I have had the honour of speaking with some extraordinary people doing brilliant things in this world.

We cover all avenues from the divine to health to inner wealth to conscious business to science to current issues to technology and innovations to philosophy and philanthropy that inspire a better world. Our guests are liberators, mentors, healers, speakers, coaches, carers, authors, leaders, teachers, inspirers and all are. They have embraced their redirect and now in honour of their soul heart spirit and an open mind, they are living their lives in purpose and inner truth.

We learn from them each and every week, so many stories that show us our way forward in our own lives, so much courage in embracing their demons their challenges and rising up to be the love joy of living and living in meaningful purpose.

I have some fabulous hosts who contribute weekly with their knowledge and that of their wonderful guests. They are living in their truth and sharing that knowingness with the world. They are knowledgeable and so much fun.

I invite you to come see what we are about. We are not just fabulous radio shows filled with incredible stories, we also have a “Fund-Action” initiative that supports people in need on their own journey. We will raise funds that then hire the talented experts in our “Self Discovery Directory”. We share with you the people who are here to help and we fund their services to those who need help finding their way to wholeness. Coming soon.

The circle of life, first receive and then re-give for once we are fortitude we need to fortify those in need so they to can contribute to the world. We are the answer to what ails the world and it all starts with us, heal thyself, become soul abundant, live in real authenticity by embracing our true purpose and be a solution to your global community.

Self Discovery where the discovery of S.E.L.F (Soul, Empowered, Loving Fulfillment) is but a show away. Discovering your S.E.L.F

Come join us and take a journey of wonderment and inspiration.

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Feeding Dignity to those who need our support.

Fullscreen capture 24122012 13253 PMFood banks, you may think you never need them, but never say never. I did not think I did, but without it, I would have gone hungry. Life happens we are not always in control of redirections, and when it does it can knock us for 6 and we find ourselves on the ground. But, that does not mean we will stay there, it means we have to get back up and keep on moving in a direction that best serves us, and we will as time allows us to regroup and redirect.

We do not always know which direction to go in when we are facing such diversity, and we may for the time being feel we do not have the strength to go on. But, when going on or facing despair is the only option, we find that courage to go on. This is why I do my shows to help people get back on their feet with inspirational stories of overcoming adversity and tools to apply in rebuilding our lives. http://selfdiscoveryradio.com  

Do not assume that having to go to the food bank means you are worthless, or shameful in any way, because we all need help at some point in our lives and we should NEVER be apologetic in asking for that help, many are only too pleased to help you so please let them, and if there is some out there that are judgmental then they are not of loving humanity.

Did you know that the food banks survive on 1 major food fundraiser a year? Christmas.  Without those there would not be enough food to help anyone, many a week there is hardly enough to feed anyone for a day never mind a week. Also without the volunteers who dedicate their time their love and their compassion, you would not have a food bank at all. They work tirelessly on doing food drives to get food to those who need it, sorting, planning organising, they do it with such care and passion because not only do they not want to see people go hungry and to support those that feel so alone.

Eating is not a seasonal thing; we need substance in us every day. Most people just leave cans of food which is great, but fresh foods like vegetables and fruit and milk and eggs are very much needed and for some they have no other means to get it. Children suffer a lot as they are growing and not getting the right nutrients they need, so pop vitamins in the food bank box and for mum and dad also, nothing worse when you in stress of finding the next meal and trying to rebuild your life at the same time, as it kills your health and is a one way down street. B plus vitamins and C is accentual.

I know we are all strapped and it is hard to feed yourselves never mind anyone else, but a little consistently goes a long way, so in any way, food, clothes, vitamins, toiletries, toys, and please do not forget the animals, for they need to eat also and many times go without.

We can make a difference we can give that helping hand, we can show some dignity and we can provide a meal that is life-saving, we can, we should and I hope that you do.

Support your local food bank and show your support and you care and that you understand, and thank you on behalf of everyone who has ever needed it. 

UPDATE: It has been bought to my attention that 1000’s pounds daily of food is being thrown away from restaurants, grocery stores and more because of the fear that they may get sued if someone gets sick of the food.

We need to put an end to this and get around the problem, because people are dying of hunger and in 2013 this should not be, especially because of a law, so let us change the law. I invite any lawyer in training or advocate who is willing to step up to providing a solution to this problem to contact me and let us get people fed.

Sara Troy

IT IS 2016 NOVEMBER AND PEOPLE ARE STILL GOING HUNGRY PLEASE SUPPORT YOUR FOOD BANKS. 

LISTEN TO THIS SHOW FROM PAT WHO RUNS A FOOD BANK 

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Are We Listening To The Signs of Life?

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BE CALM, RELAX. AND TUNE IN.
All the signs your life needs to flourish are out there waiting for you to see them. Listen and the questions will be answered. There is nothing more irritating than talking to someone who is looking at you but not listening. Clear your mind, tune all other things from your mind and tune into what is being said to you.
My word what a concept, just tuning into one thing at a time. My how your knowledge of things grows and you’re understanding. There is something inside of you telling you what to do. Amazing isn’t it? Listening to your inner self and tune into your outer environment is great because it clarifies many things that you have been confused about, the answers are always there, you just have to listen to them to hear them.
You do not have to do everything today, one thing at a time, it makes for a job done well and for more appreciation of the doing of it.
Your soul speaks to your heart which ignites your spirit into action and then it hits the mind, the mind is in a divine knowingness and in no doubt of what is in front of you.
Deep breath, feel your thoughts do not think them, relax and let the knowledge of the Universe speak to you as it is your celestial signpost.

When you rush things you cannot do the job well. When you short change yourself you cheapen the value you put on yourself and others in your life. Think of yourself as a retirement plan, a well planned and good investment makes for a harmonious retirement.
Invest in yourself with time, energy and values. There is no quick fix, no shortcuts, time is all you have, so use it wisely and learn to trust your instincts by listening to the world around you. The universe is shouting at you to listen and learn, so there is no time like the present to begin. Stop what you are doing, relax, tune out the noise to tune in and trust what comes to you. It takes time to do this with ease but with practice, it becomes second nature and a must. Some people take up Yoga; meditation, walking, singing, dancing, writing, communicating, others can do it by listening to classical music, some like to run, ski, fly, explore. First find that space that speaks to you and tune in, find a way to slow down. Stretch your arms outside to side so that you can feel the very end of your fingertips. Dance the blues away with sultry tangos or energy releasing salsa. No matter what you do, you must feel alive doing it. When you feel that life energy running through your veins that is when you start to feel your life has meaning. REMEMBER THERE IS NO QUICK FIX. You get out of life what you put into it. You must enjoy all its flavours one at a time to appreciate it.
So are you going to slow down and tune into yourself? And are you going to make an effort to listen to what others have to say? Most importantly, are you going to try to listen out and watch for the signs they are there to guide you. It is all up to you, try it and see, you never know it just might work. Remember a person who values themselves will also value others around them.

Harmony to us all.
Sara Troy

Of Self Discovery Media
Written 2011 revised 2013.

http://selfdiscoverymedia.com

Again I do a show on  SARA’s View Of Life on the signs in our lives, repetitive-life-signs

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This week I will

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This week there will only be I can’s
I will only think in the possibilities of tomorrow that I can make happen today
I will only believe in what can be not what is presently
I will think forward not dwell backwards
I will be optimistic not pessimistic
I will have faith for I do believe
I will be all that I have grown into and not fall backwards
I am what I think I am, I will be what I want to be, I can do what I think possible, if only I keep believing in me and the universe.
WILL YOU?

I wrote this 6 years ago and because I believe I can, I make it happen.

POSITIVE THINKING = POSITIVE LIVING

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Sara Troy

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What makes a woman and who decides?

When you look through the ages at style, today’s style can be very depressing. Where did the entire feminine voluptuous woman go?

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Do you remember ladies, when we were growing up, how we could not wait for a bust or some shapely curves that marked us as woman? Now all I see representing us are flat chested boy’s waist, no hips, and gawky legs.

imagesThe big (generally fat) bosses at the movie and T.V studios are dictating that women in the media’s eye should all be skinny with boyish bodies, and the magazines with all they’re airbrushing makes all look so unreal.

Why do women out there buy into this crap????????? Why are you letting some anorexic or homosexual person (no I am not homophobic) you decide whether you are beautiful or not??????? Why are you chiseling your bodies to look like men?? Why is a robust woman considered fat????

Who decides this, THEM OR YOU? You decide your sex appeal you decide if you feel sexy if you feel womanly, not them. If you are a little on the heavy side do what you have to do for your health, a robust woman can and does look fabulous in the right clothes and with the right attitude.

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I SPOKE TO YOU IN WHISPERS


I Spoke To You In Whispers

As Shells Made The Ground Beneath Us Quake

We Both Trembled In That Crater

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I Spoke To You And Pulled Your Ears

To Try And Quell Your Fearful Eye

As Bullets Whizzed Through The Raindrops

And We Watched The Men Around Us Die

I Spoke To You In Stable Tones

A Quiet Tranquil Voice

At Least I Volunteered To Fight

You Didn’t Get To Make The Choice

I Spoke To You Of Old Times

Perhaps You Went Before The Plough

And Pulled The Haycart From The Meadow

Far From Where We’re Dying Now

I Spoke To You Of Grooming

Of When The Ploughman Made You Shine

Not The Shrapnel Wounds And Bleeding Flanks

Mane Filled With Mud And Wire And Grime

I Spoke To You Of Courage

As Gas Filled The Flanders Air

Watched You Struggle In The Mud

Harness Acting Like A Snare

I Spoke To You Of Peaceful Fields

Grazing Beneath A Setting Sun

Time To Rest Your Torn And Tired Body

Your Working Day Is Done

I Spoke To You Of Promises

If From This Maelstrom I Survive

By Pen And Prose And Poetry

I’ll Keep Your Sacrifice Alive

I Spoke To You Of Legacy

For When This Hellish Time Is Through

All Those Who Hauled Or Charged Or Carried

Will Be Regarded Heroes Too

I Spoke To You In Dulcet Tones

Your Eye Told Me You Understood

As I Squeezed My Trigger To Bring You Peace

The The Only Way I Could

And I Spoke To You In Whispers……

Neil Andrew

This Is So Beautiful And Had To Be Shared; Sacrifices In War Are Made By Many, I Respect The Voice Who Cares For The Horses.

Sara Troy

Www.Orchardofwisdom.Org

Www.Selfdiscoverywisdom.Com

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International Women’s Day

Everyday is women’s day.

Women, we grow life within our bellies, we seed growth within our children dreams, we grow support for all those we love and befriend, we believe in the impossible but are sensible is our actions, we come from caring, kindness, and love, for we believe in life in community, in each other, we are women and we are capable of anything and we are in action of building a future that will serve the all of humanity.
Do not get in our way MEN instead join us, for we have a mission and that is to water the seeds of possibility’s of loving growth and we are making it happen right now. We are women, we are kindness, we are love.


Sara Troy

www.orchardofwisdom.org

www.selfdiscoverywisdom.com

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Am I just responding to reality?

Am I sad?

Am I mad?

Am I depressed?

Am I stressed?

Or am I just responding to reality?

I saw a movie last night called “The Sunset Express” with Tommy Lee Jones and Samuel Jackson, it was the best work I have ever seen Samuel do.

The premise is around Samuels character saving a man from jumping in front of a train, then trying to bring him to God to save him. There are two arguments here, and I see both of them, I understand why people give up, I understand when it gets too much, I understand when there is just nothing left in you to give.

I also understand hope, I understand choosing to see beauty instead of all the ugliness, I understand belief in humanity for I fight for it every day, I give my energy every day to the world in hopes that we can see the beauty within us, that we can feel the love, that we can come together and CARE for one another, that we can step into kindness and we can find something bigger than our selves to LOVE.

I CHOSE TO TAKE THIS PATH AS I SEE THE ONLY OTHER PATH IS THE TRAIN.

But, it is hard at times to feel the love amongst the hate, to feel the power of positive energy when it is being sucked right out of you. It is hard to give what is not being replenished so one can understand the choice to quit.

If I did not have 3 wonderful children to love I would have left a long time ago. If I did not have my work (charity work as I do not earn a living from it as people don’t like to pay for services) I would have had no choice but to give up. But are they enough? Is it enough to keep fighting every day for a survival?

Why do we as humans have to make life so hard? Why do we have to be so angry, why do we choose to hate, to fear, the loafing, and pain over the joy of life? This planet gives us more than we need, we have the opportunity to live more than we deserve, we have possibilities galore, but we still feel so disconnected from life its self.

Now I am a spiritual woman, I have no qualms with the divine, it is living on earth that stresses me out. In the divine energy, I am free, at peace, in tranquillity with meaningful love. Then I came back here to all the sorrow and pain and anger and hate disrespect, and I wonder why I have to be here, for am I really making a difference in the lives of others? Am I reaching those in need? Is my work having a positive impact? Does anyone care?

No matter how I feel today, I will carry on. Sometimes I will feel like I am up against a hurricane, sometimes the breeze at me back, but I will carry on, for if I don’t what would be the reason for being here at all.

I hope I am granted a peaceful home that is my sanctuary, a place I can retreat into, my divine world and closed the doors on all else, for without that I am not sure how much more this old body and spirit can take.

I have written this for me, I know no one will read it as they only share pretty pictures and videos. But that is ok, for it is me that needs to say this, as I know I am speaking for so many out there who feel like me and who see that train coming. HOLD ON, this too will pass as all sorrow does, keep your focus on your light, for the darkness cannot survive too long there.

It will be a music day for me, shut off from the world and allow the vibration of music to heal my soul and spirit, and tomorrow I will put on my happy hat and share someones wisdom with the world for anyone to hear if they choose to.

Happiness is not guaranteed, we do have to work at it, but sometimes we have to retreat to regroup in order to find a spark of joy in our lives. Do for you what you need to do to come back from the darkness into the light.

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Blessings

Sara Troy

Self Discovery Media.com

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Sara’s Authentic You media Shows

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These are some of the shows I did with Authentic You media.

UNFORTUNATLY, THESE HAVE BEEN DELEETED BY THE PAST PRODUCER.

Just click on the shows pictures to hear them, I went under the name of Sara Towe before changing to Sara Troy.

Debut Show

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A shows Authentic You teams shared our shift perspectives, I was last

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From Unemployed to Landing Your Dream Job

Are you struggling to cope after losing your job? Are you feeling overwhelmed about looking for new work? Suddenly finding yourself unemployed can feel demoralizing, not to mention a financial worry. But it could actually become a great opportunity to get you on a career path that you love. Even Walt Disney was fired by his newspaper editor for not being creative enough and lacking imagination. Just like Walt you can bounce back too. He went from being fired from a newspaper to a remarkable Hollywood career. So, what could be in store for you? To encourage positive things to happen, you must be positive. It’s not the time for you to feel down and sorry for yourself. Instead, dust yourself off and grab the opportunity with both hands. It can be difficult to feel positive about yourself when you have been made redundant or fired. But in order to be able to find that perfect next job, you must have faith in yourself and your abilities. You have to believe you are a talented and skilled person. If you don’t, why should anyone else? Have faith that although this seems to be a bad situation, in the end, you will make it a positive situation. Self-confidence is the key to success in life.
New opportunities
When you begin your new job search, think outside the box. Just because you’ve worked in one specific industry for many years, doesn’t mean you cannot use those skills in a different industry. Be open to new job opportunities in different fields of work. Sometimes you will have developed skills in other fields that you never thought about. Research new and different job opportunities and try to select jobs that truly interest you. Don’t choose a job for the amount of money you can make, you should choose a job you enjoy doing. There is nothing worse than going to a job every day that you hate.
Prepare for your next move
Before you rush into job hunting, take a little time to think about your personal and career priorities before planning your next move. You might want a similar role in the same industry that you just left, or perhaps even make the jump into freelancing or consultancy. Make sure your resume is up-to-date and does your skills and experience justice. Don’t dwell on the fact you lost your job and instead focus on what you can offer the next employer.
What do you enjoy doing, and what do you do well?
Focus on the things that you both enjoy and do well and write them down. Narrow the list down to around four or five things and use it as the basis of where to focus your job search. You can also take to social media and connect with people who are working in the industry that interests you. Sign up to forums, read blogs and find out what it’s really like to do what you would love to do. But if you are still struggling to find a career based on your skills and passions, you could always take an aptitude test or perhaps even ask your friends for feedback. You might be surprised what they have to say about your skills and weaknesses.
Your dream job is there for the taking
Unemployment doesn’t have to be a negative experience. Many positive things can come from losing a job. The key is to be optimistic and confident in yourself. You might not have been able to control becoming unemployed; however, you can control your future by staying focused on the positive things you can do to change your employment situation. But remember, you won’t really find out what you love to do unless you give it a go.

By Sally Writes

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The Healing Power of the Horse

The Healing Power of the Horse

Winston Churchill once said: “There is something about the outside of a horse that is good for the inside of a man,”. However, Allan J. Hamilton, MD, Professor of Surgery at the University of Arizona, might add that there is also something inside the mind of a horse that is good for human beings. He has found that bringing cancer patients and their families together with horses can create life-changing experiences, and have both physical and psychological benefits.

Physical benefits

Cancer patients undergo intense treatments and often long periods of inactivity which result in a loss of physical strength and muscle power. Horse-riding can gently improve strength, balance and coordination.

Psychological benefits

The benefits, however, reach far beyond the physical: not all patients will choose or be able to ride, yet they can benefit enormously from equine therapy. When they bond with and learn to trust horses through grooming, leading or handling, the fear and sense of powerlessness which often comes with a cancer diagnosis can be replaced with a feeling of control. Learning to handle a horse brings a feeling of pride in what the patient has achieved and results in improved confidence and self-esteem. Dr Hamilton says: “[Patients] can learn skills to help them be in control rather than out of control. They can be a participant, rather than a victim.”

The calming presence of a horse can reduce stress for a patient, and in their book, ‘Horse Sense and the Human Heart’, psychotherapists Adele and Marlena McCormick describe how horses read body language and are capable of remarkable responses to people: “Time and time again we have watched our horses offer simple gestures of comfort and affection.”

In addition, spending time with horses is a welcome distraction from the fears and stresses caused by living with cancer, as well as an opportunity for patients to spend time with people other than medical staff and so feel less isolated.

The whole family

It’s important to involve the family in the therapy because the whole family is affected by cancer. Young cancer patients who spent four days with horses at the Equine Assisted Therapy Retreat in Tucson, Arizona, together with their parents, tackled exercises with the horses designed to improve communication and coping skills. The course helped to improve the relationships between children and their parents, who are often targets for the children’s anxieties and frustrations and can become symbols of the treatment for the children. At the end of the course, parents said their children were more confident and had a more positive outlook on life.

And we must remember, a patient’s emotional well-being is vital to the outcome of their treatment.

Written by Sally Perkins

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The Big D is back again

12390917_926930850747679_4183669030451791365_nIt has been a struggle in the last few days with that big D word again, I try to ignore it, but it keeps tapping me on my shoulder. Why it is here I do not know, I work hard I believe in what I am doing, I support peoples journies, but still, the big D sits on me. Will I ever be free of it? will I ever find my independence and value of life, or is this my journey forever? If it is, I do not complain, for as long as people need the wisdom from others achievements, from the struggles and life tools, I am here to celebrate them. But still, that big D sits on me bring me down, slowing me down, telling me that this is all there is and to be of service to others is my purpose. I embrace that, I love that, but sometimes I feel that is all I am, just a service to others and not to myself. Yes, it is the big D talking, but its voice is loud and clear and at times drowns all hope out.
Maybe tomorrow will be better, maybe the big D will be gone, I will continue on for what else is there, I will not let it beat me, but strive to find joy somewhere somehow and feel it override the big D.
Sara Troy
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Dream your dream into reality

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The end of a day must be as calming as the start of a day, for in your dreams you are laying foundations for what is to come, and when you awake in your knowingness you are guided to what can make those dreams come true. Dream well and welcome a new day with enlightenment.

 

Where do the seeds of our possibilities grow?

Where do our dreams come from?

Where do we find the courage to build that dream?

Where do we find the knowledge to succeed?

That desire that lays within you is that a dream? that energy called excitement that is unleashed on an idea that became a dream.

We need dreams for they are the foundation of all that is, all that can be. So how do we honour that dream, that idea? how do we fuel it into a picture that can be seen?

Paint the picture, vivid and alive so that you are clear on what it is, start seeding and watering the idea into action. Nurture it protect it, allow it to grow in its own light and then guide it gently along its path to live.

Never give up on your dream, but remember visions change so do the directions of dreams. As long as the core of that dream is still alive, the redirection is just the universe showing you what you need to fulfil that core and make the vision happen.

Be willing to take a totally new path, for it may be the path to that dreams meaning. Remember to be aware of those around you and interact, for you never know who may have that nugget of info you need to grow.

Remember to be patient for dreams do not manifest overnight, and only grow at the rate they are meant to along with you loving care and conviction.

In the end, your dream may look totally different in reality, but as long as you have been true to the meaning of the dream, the core, the principle, the authenticity, then what you have now, is what you were always meant to have…this I know all too well.

So dream well, dream big, but be prepared to take action in all directions to fuel this dream into fruition, nothing happens by just dreaming it, you have to action on that dreams to build it.

I had a dream, I thought it was to be taken in one direction but was redirected to another. When I first started the journey, I had no idea that this was my dream all along. I got out of my way and kept walking forward in belief and purpose, not I am where I should be and know what wonders lay before me, I love who I am doing what I am doing because I fed the core, was flexible but steadfast and willing to bend but stay strong.

You too can live you meaningful purpose dream.

Sara Troy.

Owner.Host. The operator of Self Discovery Radio and The Art of Positive Living.

http://selfdiscoveryradio.com

www.saratroy.com 

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A Parents Approving Praise its not wanted anymore

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Our children grow up seeking our approval, pleasing Mum or Dad looking to know they have done something right. They look at you with those enthusiastic eyes and do things with such eager intent it is heart warming.

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You can do no wrong in their eyes, a hug from Mama, a smile and well done, went so far and gave them the encouragement to explore more ways of pleasing you. They were adventurous, making things for you, drawing pictures that they took such pride in and putting on plays to act out for you. It was wonderful and I still have a lot of my children’s art from that time. They were innocent loving creatures of a pure heart.

Then they hit the teenage years, and now you can’t to anything right and the last thing they want to do is please YOU. Now all you do is get in their way, stop them from living their dreams by dampening their spirit, or so they think and totally believe. They are caught up in the transition of becoming an adult and while hurrying to be older they are also resisting leaving childhood. Conflicts galore.

images-1Then they are young adults, working, living, arguing and pointing out how everything wrong it the world was our doing, and they will do it so much better than us. After all, they are young so must know everything right? Little do they know and until they grow older sampling the wares of life, do they understand just how hard life really is. All those ideals are not so clear anymore because reality has set in and now faced with the truth, they understand just how hard it is to change a systematic pattern that has been around a very long time.

The party days grow fewer, the workload heavier, another person to care for or maybe even more, life has suddenly hit them in the head and now they too are caught in the cycle of life. Do they see their parents differently then? Sometimes, and so many times not. Depending on how you have brought up your children, opening the minds to the world, showing them the diversity, or not, is the way they will interact and connect with anything and everyone. The more they traveled, explored learned about other cultures, they more their minds hearts and souls opened. But if they did not, all they have to draw from is the little world they came from.

downloadIf you as a parent have traveled even lived in others countries you will bring a certain influence to their world, but they are still governed by the limitations of theirs. So, encouraging your children to travel and open up their minds is so very beneficial to their lives. I was lucky to have lived in 3 countries already when I had my children and had traveled a lot. I made sure we took our kids traveling, not as much as I would have liked but some, so they could be open to other ways of cultures. I encouraged an open dialogue at the dinner table, asking those questions to learn from. I encouraged them to travel on their own, even if it was a bit nerve racking for me as a parent as I understood the lifelong benefits from it.

I was lucky to have lived in 3 countries already when I had my children and had traveled a lot. I made sure we took our kids traveling, not as much as I would have liked but some, so they could be open to other cultures ways. I encouraged an open dialogue at the dinner table, asking those questions to learn from, open their wonderment to the world and embracing that is different, encourage the questions and don’t be afraid to answer them. I encouraged them to travel on their own, even if it was a bit nerve racking for me as a parent as I understood the lifelong benefits from it, opening up to all that is life.

I was hoping that with their world perspective they would understand mine, but alas, not. My children still see me as just Mum, not the world traveler I was, not the wisdom I have gained, not the insight I have, but still just Mum. How do we open their minds to see you for who you are not just someone who birthed them or raised them? How do they see you as a person in your own right? How do you show them who you are and what you stand for? YOU HAVE TO GO OUT AND LIVE FOR YOURSELF.

images-3Living for you, embracing you, owning you, empowering you will show them who you are. They may not like seeing you as a person and not just their Mum or DAD, BUT, this is your life and living for you, does not mean you don’t love them any less, but only that you are here to do more with your life.

They like to know their parents are there for them, secure stable and with always an open door. They like to know that we are there for them any time no matter what. As parents, we try to be, we want to be interactive in their lives, we want a connection with our children, but we also want our children to see us as adults who have already wanted the path that they are on. We may have more dreams ourselves, more to do in life, more directions to take and most certainly embrace the changes before us. We are not over yet, we still have so much more to do, just like them.

Many a parent has lost the connection with their child because the child would not accept who they are outside of being a parent, this is on them, their choice that they must own, we cannot take it on. We strive through life to find and live in an authentic identity, we strive to find a meaningful purpose, we strive to learn to love ourselves and we seek to love life and live it to its fullest. This is the journey of life that all of us in some way, are journeying.

I am not the same person I was when I raised my children, I am not that woman who only lived for her kids, I am still a loving Mother who loves her children, that will never change, but I am also now a woman who has a life of her own life. My children will ALWAYS be so very important to me, their wellbeing, their soul fulfillment their joy in their heart, and the growth of their purpose is what I long for. I suppose there comes a time where you have to stop being a parent to them and invite them to see you as a person in your own right. Do you stop being a parent? NEVER for that is built into our very DNA, but it does mean we go and live our lives for ourselves, making us a happier person that can bring to the children’s table our strength our love and our knowledge.

They like to know their parents are there for them, secure stable and with always an open door. They like to know that we are there for them any time no matter what. As parents, we try to be, we want to be interactive in their lives, we want a connection with our children, but we also want our children to see us as adults who have already walked the path that they are on. We may have more dreams ourselves, more to do in life, more directions to take and most certainly embrace the many changes before us. We are not over yet, we still have so much more to do, just like them.

e12fef61e09b63849525e9230dc79907So, although you will always be the parent, do not forget to be the person you are. Man, or Woman who also is a Dad and a Mama, do not lose your identity, do not sacrifice yourself just so a child will love you, for is they really love YOU, they will love the whole of you and realize what an asset you are to their lives.

To all you parent’s out there facing this crossroads, hold on to your inner strength, stand tall in your being, and invite them to see you in all your glorious light, for it is that light that shines the way for them.

 

Always a Loving parent

Sara Troy

www.saratroy.com

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My Island of Truth and Purpose.

 

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I have finally found the island, the place where we seek out our spirit, our purpose our truth. What I did not realize in my journey to fit in, to seek and to find, is that I have been on this island all the time. It is my home, my place of being, my sanctuary and my peace. It is where I find my harmony and where above all else I can and do speak my truth.
I was born here in this place of tranquillity. I flew here with the gentle winds and bathed in the soft embracing waters or her shorelines. I baked in her sun and walked in her mysteries and discovered her wonderment. She is home to me, my bed to lay my spirit, my blanket to protect me, my sun to warm me and my fruits to feed me.
I am never alone here, for there are others here that know the same purpose and peace. We are here living in the universal paradise readying ourselves for those to come. Who are we that live here and dance with the island? We are the elders, the ones that will greet you at the entrance of the island. You do not have to come in knowledge, but you do have to come in truth and a willingness to learn. You can only gain entrance if you are true in heart, free in spirit and open to wonderment and with intent to teach others in turn.
Unlike the popular TV show The Island, we are not here to keep evil in, but to be the centre core of enlightenment and inspiration so that its pupils can come and learn and then go and teach others. It is a place of entry, a filtration of inner truth and true calling. A place where you can find your truth and a place of finding your knowingness.
What is knowingness? It is a place of such undoubted absolute truth that there is nothing that can or will contaminate what you know. When you reach it there is an understanding of information that does not have to be validated, it simply just is. It is a wonderful place to be unless you are with people who cannot see it or don’t want to. But living in this absolute shows such conviction that people cannot argue with your belief factor.
I flew as a child, flew high as a young woman, in my flight I reached out and found my knowledge. I have never learned the conventional way, I am a Now learner. Some things that I have read direct me and give me an understanding of what I am living. But for the most part, my knowingness comes from just feeling my truth or what it is I need to know in that time and space.
Space the final frontier, it is the beginning, it is the end, it is everything in-between, and it is just everything. When I am in flight I connect to the molecules of the universe and gain my knowledge. I am one and individual within the one of everything. My existence is present at all times somewhere, in something, doing something even in my nothingness. We live in a conscious of non-consciences. I live in my presence and can only speak to my knowledge in the now. When cross-examined on it I falter, for the now is all I am.
I have had a hard time living in my body, my consciousness is my home, this body, and its needs draw me away from my being and I end up confused and misplaced. I have had to learn and be at peace and in balance with my soul spirit and body, something that requires a consistent earthly consciousness’.
On the island I am whole, I am one. Melded with my humanity I now realize that I am not just an elder in spirit but now in mind and body. It is time for me now to take my teachings up to another level and embrace the elder in me.
I love youth, the spirit dancing in possibilities, the embrace, and hunger for knowledge and the acceptance of inner truth without fear. It is wonderful to see them soar, to see their flight. But as an elder, it is not for me to journey with them but to guide them, give the grounding from which they springboard from and an open understanding of the passengers they up pick up along the way.

156602_277522309017407_1806918981_nI love being the elder, now matched with human age, I can just be the wisdom, the balance and the guidance they need to make their own journey. They are the future, so we must guide them well, for as is was in the begging it will be in the end, our existence will be in their hands of the young that grow older and wiser.
So come to the island to learn and breathe in its knowledge, embrace its wisdom and take it with you through your journey in your own purposeful life. Some come to look but are not ready to participate in it yet. Their time will come, this lifetime a hundred lifetimes from now, it will come. You can only help the ready only guide those that ask for passage; only liberate those who want it. As in everything in life, it is not for us to walk their walk, but to show the options of the road ahead of them and ready them for the journey.
If we have done it right then they will find their spirit that guides them and is that inspiration for others to follow. One can only show them the water, not drink it for them, it must be their free will, their choice to make the journey.
The most powerful thing in the universe is the feeling of knowingness, for in that truth there is a sense of peace and love. Life is a feeling guided by knowledge sight touch. When our senses are as one we are in that place of truth and the universal centre.
Take your head out of it, listen with your eyes, feel with your heart, and speak from the soul. Your head is the CPU the computer to store your knowledge, the truth of your knowledge comes from your soul which is your universal connection. Be open, be honest, be trusting, be still, tap in and feel it, be it and live in it. You know what you need to know in that space of time, all other information serves no purpose till it is needed. Download it and store it somewhere and listen to the universe speak to you, ask and you will receive if you are truly open to hearing, feel and see it.
So my young spirits, I am here waiting for you excited to feel your being and guide you on your way to greatness. Spirits set free to fulfil their purpose in the greatness of the song and dance we call universal harmony.

Sara Troy

Founder guide at The Art of Positive Living

http://saratroy.com 

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