Reality spoken and reality felt are 2 different things.

Reality spoken and reality felt are 2 different things.

Love; there are so many levels, can there be a love that incorporates them all? Can you love some one so completely and in every way and be all the each other that any one would every need?

No I am afraid I believe that one cannot. To love some one for their mind, heart soul, body and spirit I do not feel that one can completely not sustain it over time.

If only we could love some one, some of the way and letting the other feeling go, is that enough? Yes I believe you can love truly that way. But if the spirit does not love wholly then I believe you cannot love completely.

We do not all find our soul mates, we many not find some one who makes our heart flutter, we find some one who excites our mind who lights up our bodies, but I believe that for true complete love you need the spirit to be united for with out that your love cannot fly.

To know how to love in heart, in mind, in body and in soul that can unite in spirit is the most wonderful love of all. It is every thing, it is life, it is love at its finest. But if the spirit wavers, do all the other loves fade too?

I do honestly believe that you can love someone with just one component. Heart, mind, body, soul, and if you have all of these together you have love with some one you trust who you can be truthful with and who will always be there for you no matter what.

This love is solid, grounding, and honest, but is not a love made of desire of spirit of sensuality. It is one of partner ship, deep friend ship and one of complete trust.

To love some intimately, you need that spirit to fly, the senses to feel and the excitement of each day. In order for the spirit to sustain, you need to back it up with the heart, mind, body and if lucky soul. None of these and ll you have is lust or be it good.

We strive through our lives to find some to love so completely, the partner who will stand by you no matter what, the friend that will always be there for you, the soul mate who will protect you, the body that will embrace you and the spirit that binds you.

We experience all sorts of levels of this and if we are lucky we experience the whole thing at once, which is the most exhilarating thing in life all together. But can it sustain its self? Not without holding on to it and nurturing it. For if you do not water the spirit, it dies. The soul is deep enough to hold on to, the heart may take the blow, the mind will rationalize, the body reacts, but if the spirit is not there that is no true life to the relation ship, no true complete feelings.

I have experienced it all. Heart ,mind, body, soul, spirit and love. The soul gives me peace some thing I can count on, the heart is pain full as it feels too much, the head which becomes to logical and try’s to find some thing left in it all, the body that aches for that true touch but the most thing is the spirit for with out that there is no love passion blood running through your veins, no sense of true life.

I have experienced it all on every level. The time that is was all complete was the most exhilarating and freeing feeling I have every experienced, the time I felt most alive and the time I felt most loved in my whole life, and that I no longer have.

If the spirit died, what is in its place is true love of soul, heart, mind and friend ship? This solid and in truth and will always be there. But with out the spirit it cannot fly any more and cannot feel free to simply love and be loved in pure honesty.

What would send the spirit away……. Life, life gets its way, the trial and tribulations of every day life interferes with the spirit and forms a heavy blanket of life around you that the spirit if not united can not escape from.

With the spirit in tact nothing can waver you from that love, but if guilt pain or doubt get in the way, it is like a virus to the spirit eating it away.

The challenge to love through thick and thin is titanic. To keep that love lit no matter what takes 2 people who have to believe in their love no matter what. It also has to have the unite all the body of passion of physical love for each other, or the love no matter how strong cannot and will not survive.

How do we honestly love? Some say it is the mind, yes that is big for me, for if I can not speak with you and respect your mind I can not communicate with you and that is eventually going to ruin a relationship. Some say it is the heart, yes; we need our hearts to tell us we love for the pumping of the heart is an indication of how we feel. Some say the soul, I agree; to have a soul mate is the depth of trust and truth the protection of each other. Some say one cannot live with out physical love. It depends on what relation ship you have. For complete love with you most defiantly need a compatible physical love. If the spirit is with you, it is a physical love that will take you to heights that you never though possible. But every day companion ship does not need sex, as love as you do not need it.

This companion love is one of a different front. It is a love that wants to be together and can be so comfortable and trusting. One can even have very nice sexual relations but not sexual highs, for that you need the spirit.

SO DO WE HAVE A SAY IN IT ALL? Or does God decide who and how we are going to love?

I wish that I did not have the longing for the spiritual love, that I did not have the need to feel love. I wish that I could live peacefully with companion love. One side of me cans, but the other side of which I have no control over will not. It screams at me to love in a spiritual way to love entirely inside and out, to need and receive it all. Am I being greedy, is there such a thing, am I being selfish to want to love in peace and in passion?

I do not think that I am the one to decide this, for the passion with in me is begging to come out and to love some one in a spiritual way that is RECIPROCATED.

Chemistry, it is either there of not, when it is, it is heaven. When it is one-sided it is hell. When you love some one so truly but the passion is not compatible it is hell. But when you love some one and cannot be to them what they need it is double hell.

Loved and loving in all ways but the spiritual passion. What does one do? Are you excepting of the situation do you give in and suppress the passion wanting to come out? Do you hurt the one you love more by omitting it? Or is the love you have honest enough to face the truth? I am not enough for him and he cannot give me in truth what I crave from him. So there is only one thing to do. I let him go. I wish for him a love that will fulfill his desire but I continue to love him in all other ways, for that love is in truth and is strong and is needed for both people to complete our lives.

If any one comes into our lives that can fulfill the spiritual needs that both of us in our spiritual being need, we will still love one another, would we still be there for one another, and share in the joy of each others new love.

Will it be painful at first! Yes, for we would not want this, we wanted to be together forever, and we would be but just in a different way.

When the pain would come of which we would help each other through. Now our spirits can come together with out the fear of letting each other down. Now we can unite in the way we did before in a way that was not threatening and in an honest way of sharing a common dream.

Love them forever no matter what always be here for each other, in your sadness, struggles, triumphs and in your future love. Count on each other for you can.

By Sara Towe

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Bureaucracy, we cannot do it your way.

Bureaucracy is binding and restrictive where is the innovation the D.I.V.A-ntion?

We need D.I.V.A’S who dare to Dream, are Inspired by their Vision and Aspire to make their D.I.V.A come true. 

images (2)We cannot do this the conventional way, we have tried and it is just not working for us. The world has become so constructed that their seems to be no room for inspiration or innovations.

By the book, some one out there started a procedure that now every one else must follow. The procedure does not allow for independent thought or creative ideas. You can be inspirational as long as you follow procedure and do not step out of the box.

There is no daring-any more, no let’s do it and see what happens, and no it feels right lets take a chance. We have all become too tentative, so cautionary and so timid, that unless if fits in to the procedure and conforms to the requirements it is not acknowledged.

How many brilliant ideas are we loosing each day due to conformity? How many earth-curing possibilities have been lost because the idea did not fit in to the norm. How much more could we have advanced in technologies and medicinal cures if belief came first not rules and regulations or greed.

Every great leader, every great innovator, and every dreamer has been told, you can’t do that. Thank God for the ones who ignored them and despite the barriers, the obstacles and the negatives in their way, they over came to give us their dream.

images (1)Thomas Edison, the light bulb,

Nikolai Tesla Telegraph (wireless)

Guglielmo Marconi (first Morse code signals over 2.4.km)

The Write brothers, flight.

Steve Jobs/ Bill Gates useable daily computers.

Alessandro Volta – Inventor of the Electric Battery.

Alexander Graham Bell – Inventor of the Telephone.

Guglielmo Marchese Marconi “Tuned Syntonic Telegraphy”. This invention introduced tuned circuits to wireless for the first time.

Alfred Bernhard Nobel – Inventor of Dynamite.

Samuel Morse – Inventor of the Morse Code.

Louis Pasteur solved the mysteries of rabies, anthrax, chicken cholera, and silkworm diseases, and contributed to the development of the first vaccines.

Heinrich Rudolf Hertz devised a transmitting oscillator, from which electric waves were made to radiate.

Television= John Logie Baird

Internet = J C R Licklider

Transistor =William B. Shockley

cyclzone_home_logoand now Bill Mackie The N-GEN (scale-able electric motor) and the Living Fractals concept. welcome-t0cyclzone/ and livingfractals.com/

So many more, so many that has made a difference to our every day life.

I look at kids today and people in general, and they all forget that in order for them to drive a car it took Ford to mass produce them, to speak on the phone it took Alexander Bell years to over come scrutiny and disbelief. The Bell Company gave us just a call away, with cell phones that make our lives so in touch with each other.

Do we appreciate all that innovation contains? Do they understand all the years that go into developing a dream to viability? Do they understand all the doors that get slammed in their faces, the No’s all and the disbelievers? And all the money life savings that go into these developments?

I understand now, I know what it takes to bring a dream to a reality, I understand all the no’s will eventually lead to a resounding yes, I have not stopped believing although at times live in disbelief of the narrow-mindedness and the fearful that we have comes across. Also the total lack of Government support, they speak Green but do not support Green technologies. We must demand that they do.

To invent, develop, to bring to the public interest, to build it, one has to first dream it. Then it is a matter of sharing the dream, sharing its possibilities and building the possibly to a reality for all to share in.

An ideology that I so believe in, that society has been beating out of me for the last 9 years. I had lost my way. I started out with a vision so strong so true so complete and absolute that nothing would waver it, and then over the last 9 years trying to bring this to the forefront to develop this dream in to a reality that serves so many, I had lost my energy. I allowed the conventional way the rules and regulations and lack of support, to direct me to nowhere.

Now I must start again at the very beginning…. The vision the faith and the reason why I have laid it all down, borne the slaps in the face, taken yet another no and still tried to make believers out of every one.

I must take this not to the rule followers but the rule breakers. The ones that see it, the ones that know is power its need and understand that no barrier must be in its way, that no one must be in its way and that this gift, this motor that will change the lives of so many and help save the world while doing it, must at all cost BE DEVELOPED.

SDR icon 600x600I am anew again, my direction is clear. We will never develop it with conformity but will deliver it with vision faith and believe-ability. We will address those that dare to dream, those that are unafraid, those that are compelled to make it happen for the good of the world for the good of mankind and for what it all stands for Giving Back in order to move forward.

Look out world here we come, the dream is alive again and on the right road… forward to victory, forwards to liberty, forwards to society and in gaining all that we gain, turn around and give it back.

May your wishes of good energy be with us and may your intentions of good will be behind us, for it is you who we are doing this for, you and the rest of the universe.

You want to be apart of this in any way you are welcome, come and be a part of future solutions and innovations and support our “Crusaders for Change” where with a radio station blog, great hosts and amazing courageous and liberating guests being interviewed weekly, we are going to build those dreams up to a reality for those who dare to dream.

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By Sara Troy

Self Discovery Radio.

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What is Self-Healing by Bill Hinchcliff

To further elaborate on the process of Self-Healing one must understand that it is an all-round expression of self-awareness and the taking control of all of the things that can internally and externally affect our health that we have control over. I have included externally as the people around us can have a major bearing on the emotional impact that our body endures. The other part of external is the energetic damage that others can inflict upon us just by draining our energy. In one workshop there was a lady about 50 years old that was the caregiver to her elderly mother, she was saying how tired she was and that her mother was exhausting her. After checked her aura I found that there was an external contact that was taking her energy, which I was sure that it was the mother. I suggested to others in the workshop that they feel the stream of energy that was leaving her. They all checked it out and were able to feel the energy flow. The interesting part was she realized that this connection was her mother and she felt guilty about stopping her mother keep taking her life force energy. In the workshop was a lady of 87 years who told this lady that if she did not look after herself she would not be able to be of help to her mother. The wisdom of this statement made the lady immediately disconnect her mother as she realized that if she were to be incapacitated, her mother would have no one to take care of her. Sometimes we are willing to hurt ourselves by putting others in front of our own well-being. Self sacrifice has no benefits as it can make us ill to the point of death.

 

Internally, we are energy beings that require life force energy to fuel our bodies which rebuilds our cellular structure, keeps our parts fueled in order to work smoothly and repair any damaged done to our bodies from our every day living. If the life force energy does not flow and is blocked from flowing; the parts that the life force energy services will deteriorate and die from lack of nourishment. Understanding this fact is paramount to the knowing that we are individually responsible for our own health and therefore must keep the body and mind balanced in order for our life force energy to flow.

 

Nutrition is just a part of keeping the body health; however food that has not been adulterated is a very important factor in feeding the energy requirements of the body and mind. The food should be of a natural source, as it will have the synergistic energy that our bodies require. Food sources that have been adulterated through the use of chemicals that control growth, kill insects and pests will also carry the residual chemicals that will cause health ailments in humans. “There is no escape, poison is poison.”

 

The unfortunate concept that food and exercise are what is needed for optimal health of which our institutions promote is only a part of the puzzle since it does not address energy flow. (An automobile can be full of gas and the engine be in perfect tune but still will not work if the electricity is not flowing.) This is just a simple example however it does have a parallel to the human body. The mind and spirit are of critical importance in the whole process of good health and self-healing. The basic foundation of good health is a combination of body, mind and spirit, which should not be forgotten.

 

Yes exercise is good, but it must be done with moderation in mind.  As I write, I am in a park watching people running, some are physically in great condition, others are fat and in poor condition. The thought that passes through my mind is questioning the validity of using such a physically demanding way of hoping to achieve better health at the risk of a heart attack or even muscular and or skeletal damage.

The main point here is to do everything in moderation since excess impacts the emotional side of our being, which in turn will impact the life force energy flow in our bodies as energy blocks will develop.

Growing old gracefully is a concept that if applied would remove a great number of fears of aging, these fears are a part of the emotional mismanagement that our bodies have to endure. Emotions are attached to most of our internal organs such as anger attaches to the liver, stress to the adrenal glands and insecurity to the coccyx-al gland. Much can be said on this topic however these writings are about simplicity and to be easily understood

 

Self Healing is such an important part to remember and must not be taken lightly, the removal of emotional blocks and the balancing out ones energy removes most obstacles that are the cause of many health difficulties that can appear months if not years down the road.

 

 Keeping our life force energy in balance is the most important aspect

of illness prevention and maintaining optimal health.

 Thoughts to Ponder

Go quietly through the confusion of life, and remember that there is peace in silence.

Be on good terms with all people without compromise.

Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others. Avoid loud and aggressive people, as they disturb your spirit.

If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own knowledge, as it is yours, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.

Be true and positive to your-self, your affections and loves.

Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with fears, loss and loneliness.

Be gentle with yourself. Your life will unfold, as it should.
Therefore be at peace with yourself and keep peace in your soul.

 

 Self-Healing could be the most important thing that saves your life.

 More can be found in his book

Natural Energy Healing_ $25

Phone: 604-939-2209

E-Mail

cwhinchcliff@yahoo.ca

 

 

I first met Bill Hinchcliff 4 years ago at a workshop for entrepreneurs.  We became friends and it was a delight for me to know that I had made a friend that I could openly embrace my spirituality with. I had been in a bad car accident and had severe neck pains. Bill told me that my brain was out of alignment and with my permission and with out touching me, he proceeded to align me. It may sound mad but it did work and for 9 months I was pain free. My alignment problem did not come back just the usual mussel pain from damage.

Bill was getting over the death of his wife of whom he had not yet let go of. He was searching for an avenue in his life, as he was most defiantly lost at that time. My daughter’s boy friend had damaged his foot in a skate boarding accident and had a lot of pain and swelling. Bill worked on him and taught him how to energize him self. He recovered really fast and continued to use energy healing on him self.

I knew this was Bill’s direction, as you cannot be given a gift like this and not use it. He and I did form a business partner ship bringing electric bikes for a short while, but together it was not our journey. Bill went his way and followed his gift and I formed a new business partner ship with another gifted man and together we have been working on bringing the world a new electric motor drive system that will replace the combustion engine and out dated electric motor.

Some things take time, some things happen fast, with the love and support of a loving woman Bill has gone of to follow his life’s path of which I am very pleased about, it was his calling. I followed my destiny which is taking longer, some do not believe that we will make it, but if you ask the people who want change and to loose the oil strong hold on us all, then you will see this change come to pass, this is my path and I was chosen for it. www.cyclzone.com 

On this extraordinary journey my business partner and I found love, and after 20 years in a questionable marriage, no dating in the 5 years of being single, my love was in my partner, friend and soul mate, and yet another Bill. We could not have endured the skeptics, the nay Sayers and the doubters if our faith in each other and in what we are doing was not so strong and if our love for one another was not so true.

Keep up the good work Bill Hinchcliff, people need you and your gift, never give up and never give in, life is a choice and we must stand by that choice proud and strong.

If you have health issues or feel out of the energy loop, please contact Bill, as he will be able to get you energized and back in sync with your self and the universe.

Very proud of you Bill may you have many more years of healing ahead of you, I did see you going back to your roots as a shaman did I not! and much happiness to you and your love.

Sara Towe

 

 

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This could be the start of some thing wonderful!!!!!!

The architectural plans are done, the engineering done, the property targeted and the builders ready…… What is needed now are the visionary like people who see it the design and want to help build the foundation.

To have a vision of some thing so big, so strong and so global is wonderful. It is even better when you share that vision with others that see the sheer simple answer to such a huge problem.

We have carbon deposits, we have pollution from combustion engines, we have a drain on energy and we do not have an answer to the problems that really works….or do we!!!

Imagine an engine that did not require gasoline and did not create harmful fumes! Imagine this engine been powered by solar, water, air, wind natures energy!!!

Now imagine that you could actually be part of such a new innovation and be a part of a new system that eradicates carbon and fuel efficiency problems around the world!!!!!!

Cyclzone Technologies is opening the doors for a short time to foundation builders to help the company get the leg up they need to get their electric motor drive system up and running. It will not take much, as once they have reached a certain level in the next 3 months, they will be ready to go into many industries with this level of a 40-horse power motor.

As this is a scalable motor drive system it can scale up to 1000’s of horsepower, and fit into any industry that an existing electric motor is in and replace combustion engines everywhere. It has unlimited potentials.

If you think that you would like to be a part of this vastly growing development and be a part of history, the door is open to you. Industries, battery companies, manufacturing, innovators, if you have an interest in doing business with us, come join the party and let’s make some thing good happen.

Want to know more! Our site gives you all the possibilities that the motor can and will fit in to. Check us out and come join the adventure.

By Sara Troy

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READY SET GO!!!!!!!!!!!!

Well is it a go yet? That is what I get from all our believers, have we got a commitment yet from an investor. No I say, another one ran we offered an the group exclusive rights to an entire industry, but it was to big or to small who knows, it is only worth billions.

They all want a piece of the car pie, is it because they want to look like hero’s bringing an electric car to the market, to save the world or just because they smell money. The car industry is a difficult one, you have the car companies backed by oil and you have oil companies not wanting non-gas vehicles on the road. You have governments making it hard to drive an electric car any-where (because they are in bed with the oils companies) and you have regulations that make it expensive to develop a new car company.

Yes electric cars and bikes etc on the road most definably makes a huge difference, BUT, where the real difference is in industries that use gas powered motors all day every day. Replace gas motors in these industries and you will see a mega reduction in carbon and other pollutant fumes.

If you replace all those motors around the world the air in the world will be clean and pure. We will have cheaper energy because we can tap in to air-water-solar-wind and any other friendly power. We have all these energies at hand, many have already perfected many alternatives and as time goes by with public and government persuasion, we will do it better.

Yes our GREEN LIGHT is just around the corner, for some one out there has the brains, the insight, the guts and the money to say “Just do it” we believe we may have already met that a few persons who have the ability and insightful and delivery and gutsy ones who says “yes lets do it”

 

Keep your fingers crossed, we are developing for an electric motor for a  car company, lets hope it is one who will bring you the sexiest and most affordable reliable electric motor car by 2010.

8-8-08 Chinese Olympics open prosperity is in abundance.

Up date, in numerology I am a number 8 and in my 8th year with another 8 to boot. In Chinese a number 8 means prosperity, to day is the 8-8-08, and to day I was given a gift of a bright light in a visionary person who’s wings spread far and wide and will fly high and strong for us. Welcome friend the world awaits us…..

                                                              

WE ARE WORKING ON IT…….              

 

 

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“The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination.”

 J.K. Rowling, author of the best-selling Harry Potter book

 series, delivers her Commencement Address, “The Fringe

Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination.”                    

 Copyright of JK Rowling, June 2008                        

As prepared for delivery

President Faust, members of the Harvard Corporation and the Board of Overseers, members of the faculty, proud parents, and, above all, graduates,

The first thing I would like to say is ‘thank you.’ Not only has Harvard given me an extraordinary honour, but the weeks of fear and nausea I’ve experienced at the thought of giving this commencement address have made me lose weight. A win-win situation! Now all I have to do is take deep breaths, squint at the red banners and fool myself into believing I am at the world’s best-educated Harry Potter convention.

Delivering a commencement address is a great responsibility; or so I thought until I cast my mind back to my own graduation. The commencement speaker that day was the distinguished British philosopher Baroness Mary Warnock. Reflecting on her speech has helped me enormously in writing this one, because it turns out that I can’t remember a single word she said. This liberating discovery enables me to proceed without any fear that I might inadvertently influence you to abandon promising careers in business, law or politics for the giddy delights of becoming a gay wizard.

You see? If all you remember in years to come is the ‘gay wizard’ joke, I’ve still come out ahead of Baroness Mary Warnock. Achievable goals: the first step towards personal improvement.

Actually, I have wracked my mind and heart for what I ought to say to you today. I have asked myself what I wish I had known at my own graduation, and what important lessons I have learned in the 21 years that has expired between that day and this.

I have come up with two answers. On this wonderful day when we are gathered together to celebrate your academic success, I have decided to talk to you about the benefits of failure. And as you stand on the threshold of what is sometimes called ‘real life’, I want to extol the crucial importance of imagination.

These might seem quixotic or paradoxical choices, but please bear with me.

Looking back at the 21-year-old that I was at graduation, is a slightly uncomfortable experience for the 42-year-old that she has become. Half my lifetime ago, I was striking an uneasy balance between the ambition I had for myself, and what those closest to me expected of me.

I was convinced that the only thing I wanted to do, ever, was to write novels. However, my parents, both of whom came from impoverished backgrounds and neither of whom had been to college, took the view that my overactive imagination was an amusing personal quirk that could never pay a mortgage, or secure a pension.

They had hoped that I would take a vocational degree; I wanted to study English Literature. A compromise was reached that in retrospect satisfied nobody, and I went up to study Modern Languages. Hardly had my parents’ car rounded the corner at the end of the road than I ditched German and scuttled off down the Classics corridor.

I cannot remember telling my parents that I was studying Classics; they might well have found out for the first time on graduation day. Of all subjects on this planet, I think they would have been hard put to name one less useful than Greek mythology when it came to securing the keys to an executive bathroom.

I would like to make it clear, in parenthesis, that I do not blame my parents for their point of view. There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you. What is more, I cannot criticise my parents for hoping that I would never experience poverty. They had been poor themselves, and I have since been poor, and I quite agree with them that it is not an ennobling experience. Poverty entails fear, and stress, and sometimes depression; it means a thousand petty humiliations and hardships. Climbing out of poverty by your own efforts, that is indeed something on which to pride yourself, but poverty itself is romanticised only by fools.

What I feared most for myself at your age was not poverty, but failure.

At your age, in spite of a distinct lack of motivation at university, where I had spent far too long in the coffee bar writing stories, and far too little time at lectures, I had a knack for passing examinations, and that, for years, had been the measure of success in my life and that of my peers.

I am not dull enough to suppose that because you are young, gifted and well-educated, you have never known hardship or heartbreak. Talent and intelligence never yet inoculated anyone against the caprice of the Fates, and I do not for a moment suppose that everyone here has enjoyed an existence of unruffled privilege and contentment.

However, the fact that you are graduating from Harvard suggests that you are not very well-acquainted with failure. You might be driven by a fear of failure quite as much as a desire for success. Indeed, your conception of failure might not be too far from the average person’s idea of success, so high have you already flown academically.

Ultimately, we all have to decide for ourselves what constitutes failure, but the world is quite eager to give you a set of criteria if you let it. So I think it fair to say that by any conventional measure, a mere seven years after my graduation day, I had failed on an epic scale. An exceptionally short-lived marriage had imploded, and I was jobless, a lone parent, and as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain, without being homeless. The fears my parents had had for me, and that I had had for myself, had both come to pass, and by every usual standard, I was the biggest failure I knew.

Now, I am not going to stand here and tell you that failure is fun. That period of my life was a dark one, and I had no idea that there was going to be what the press has since represented as a kind of fairy tale resolution. I had no idea how far the tunnel extended, and for a long time, any light at the end of it was a hope rather than a reality.

So why do I talk about the benefits of failure? Simply because failure meant a stripping away of the inessential. I stopped pretending to myself that I was anything other than what I was, and began to direct all my energy into finishing the only work that mattered to me. Had I really succeeded at anything else, I might never have found the determination to succeed in the one arena I believed I truly belonged. I was set free, because my greatest fear had already been realised, and I was still alive, and I still had a daughter whom I adored, and I had an old typewriter and a big idea. And so rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life.

You might never fail on the scale I did, but some failure in life is inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.

Failure gave me an inner security that I had never attained by passing examinations. Failure taught me things about myself that I could have learned no other way. I discovered that I had a strong will, and more discipline than I had suspected; I also found out that I had friends whose value was truly above rubies.

The knowledge that you have emerged wiser and stronger from setbacks means that you are, ever after, secure in your ability to survive. You will never truly know yourself, or the strength of your relationships, until both have been tested by adversity. Such knowledge is a true gift, for all that it is painfully won, and it has been worth more to me than any qualification I ever earned.

Given a time machine or a Time Turner, I would tell my 21-year-old self that personal happiness lies in knowing that life is not a check-list of acquisition or achievement. Your qualifications, your CV, are not your life, though you will meet many people of my age and older who confuse the two. Life is difficult, and complicated, and beyond anyone’s total control, and the humility to know that will enable you to survive its vicissitudes.

You might think that I chose my second theme, the importance of imagination, because of the part it played in rebuilding my life, but that is not wholly so. Though I will defend the value of bedtime stories to my last gasp, I have learned to value imagination in a much broader sense. Imagination is not only the uniquely human capacity to envision that which is not, and therefore the fount of all invention and innovation. In its arguably most transformative and revelatory capacity, it is the power that enables us to empathise with humans whose experiences we have never shared.

One of the greatest formative experiences of my life preceded Harry Potter, though it informed much of what I subsequently wrote in those books. This revelation came in the form of one of my earliest day jobs. Though I was sloping off to write stories during my lunch hours, I paid the rent in my early 20s by working in the research department at Amnesty International’s headquarters in London.

There in my little office I read hastily scribbled letters smuggled out of totalitarian regimes by men and women who were risking imprisonment to inform the outside world of what was happening to them. I saw photographs of those who had disappeared without trace, sent to Amnesty by their desperate families and friends. I read the testimony of torture victims and saw pictures of their injuries. I opened handwritten, eye-witness accounts of summary trials and executions, of kidnappings and rapes.

Many of my co-workers were ex-political prisoners, people who had been displaced from their homes, or fled into exile, because they had the temerity to think independently of their government. Visitors to our office included those who had come to give information, or to try and find out what had happened to those they had been forced to leave behind.

I shall never forget the African torture victim, a young man no older than I was at the time, who had become mentally ill after all he had endured in his homeland. He trembled uncontrollably as he spoke into a video camera about the brutality inflicted upon him. He was a foot taller than I was, and seemed as fragile as a child. I was given the job of escorting him to the Underground Station afterwards, and this man whose life had been shattered by cruelty took my hand with exquisite courtesy, and wished me future happiness.

And as long as I live I shall remember walking along an empty corridor and suddenly hearing, from behind a closed door, a scream of pain and horror such as I have never heard since. The door opened, and the researcher poked out her head and told me to run and make a hot drink for the young man sitting with her. She had just given him the news that in retaliation for his own outspokenness against his country’s regime, his mother had been seized and executed.

Every day of my working week in my early 20s I was reminded how incredibly fortunate I was, to live in a country with a democratically elected government, where legal representation and a public trial were the rights of everyone.

Every day, I saw more evidence about the evils humankind will inflict on their fellow humans, to gain or maintain power. I began to have nightmares, literal nightmares, about some of the things I saw, heard and read.

And yet I also learned more about human goodness at Amnesty International than I had ever known before.

Amnesty mobilises thousands of people who have never been tortured or imprisoned for their beliefs to act on behalf of those who have. The power of human empathy, leading to collective action, saves lives, and frees prisoners. Ordinary people, whose personal well-being and security are assured, join together in huge numbers to save people they do not know, and will never meet. My small participation in that process was one of the most humbling and inspiring experiences of my life.

Unlike any other creature on this planet, humans can learn and understand, without having experienced. They can think themselves into other people’s minds, imagine themselves into other people’s places.

Of course, this is a power, like my brand of fictional magic, that is morally neutral. One might use such an ability to manipulate, or control, just as much as to understand or sympathise.

And many prefer not to exercise their imaginations at all. They choose to remain comfortably within the bounds of their own experience, never troubling to wonder how it would feel to have been born other than they are. They can refuse to hear screams or to peer inside cages; they can close their minds and hearts to any suffering that does not touch them personally; they can refuse to know.

I might be tempted to envy people who can live that way, except that I do not think they have any fewer nightmares than I do. Choosing to live in narrow spaces can lead to a form of mental agoraphobia, and that brings its own terrors. I think the wilfully unimaginative see more monsters. They are often more afraid.

What is more, those who choose not to empathise may enable real monsters. For without ever committing an act of outright evil ourselves, we collude with it, through our own apathy.

One of the many things I learned at the end of that Classics corridor down which I ventured at the age of 18, in search of something I could not then define, was this, written by the Greek author Plutarch: What we achieve inwardly will change outer reality.

That is an astonishing statement and yet proven a thousand times every day of our lives. It expresses, in part, our inescapable connection with the outside world, the fact that we touch other people’s lives simply by existing.

But how much more are you, Harvard graduates of 2008, likely to touch other people’s lives? Your intelligence, your capacity for hard work, the education you have earned and received, give you unique status, and unique responsibilities. Even your nationality sets you apart. The great majority of you belong to the world’s only remaining superpower. The way you vote, the way you live, the way you protest, the pressure you bring to bear on your government, has an impact way beyond your borders. That is your privilege, and your burden.

If you choose to use your status and influence to raise your voice on behalf of those who have no voice; if you choose to identify not only with the powerful, but with the powerless; if you retain the ability to imagine yourself into the lives of those who do not have your advantages, then it will not only be your proud families who celebrate your existence, but thousands and millions of people whose reality you have helped transform for the better. We do not need magic to change the world, we carry all the power we need inside ourselves already: we have the power to imagine better.

I am nearly finished. I have one last hope for you, which is something that I already had at 21. The friends with whom I sat on graduation day have been my friends for life. They are my children’s godparents, the people to whom I’ve been able to turn in times of trouble, friends who have been kind enough not to sue me when I’ve used their names for Death Eaters. At our graduation we were bound by enormous affection, by our shared experience of a time that could never come again, and, of course, by the knowledge that we held certain photographic evidence that would be exceptionally valuable if any of us ran for Prime Minister.

So today, I can wish you nothing better than similar friendships. And tomorrow, I hope that even if you remember not a single word of mine, you remember those of Seneca, another of those old Romans I met when I fled down the Classics corridor, in retreat from career ladders, in search of ancient wisdom:

As is a tale, so is life: not how long it is, but how good it is, is what matters.

I wish you all very good lives.

Thank you very much.

 


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The Acting Bug

Well they say it is in the genes and I think that they are right. I have just come from watching my youngest daughter in a play, her first ever play. I am very impressed, she was so good that I forgot that she was my daughter and I got right into the character.

2455_57346866414_4233785_nMy eldest daughter impressed me when she was 15 when she played a victim of rape trying to defend her self. Where do they get it from, they dig down and find this natural talent that when they just let go they explode into their characters and wow you.

Me! No I tried acting and preferred behind the scenes and directing. Front and centre comes from my mother Joanna North who has an abundance of talent that although recognized for many reasons was not pursued. (My farther being one of them)

My mother could command a stage but also make her co actors look good doing it.  She loved the dramatic roles and could get down into them bringing out their personalities so every one knew them. If the times had been different (not war-time) my mother would have been known to be one of the greats, but family, jealousy from my Dad and shyness on her part, led her to local performance’s which were always a hit and sold out.

Tabytha and Tasha’s Dad Tony, acts also in movies and commercials, he would love to have made a career out of it, but it is a hard world and one that should first to perused in youth when you have the freedom to explore it.

Well I would say my girls have got that natural talent. Trouble is my eldest gave up on it and that a shame because another talent lost to us, she was good and could still be good if only she would trust herself and live it again. Tabytha (25) could learn lines with total ease and get into character very easily, she is born to act, and I wish she would try it once more.

My other daughter Tasha, (19) was very tentative about acting, not sure if she wanted to or not, or even if she could act. Tonight she proved without a doubt that she can and should act.

She had lots of dialogue which she took command of, she had to be angry and cynical and with humor all at the same time, and she pulled it of. As I said I started watching my little girl and forgot who she was and enjoyed the person she became.

Well-done my darling I am pleased and very impressed. You now have the taste of acting and how liberating it can be, fly with in explore it and trust your self in it for your Grand mama’s genes are in you and you are a born actress.

Do not forget you other talent of writing another family talent, (brother novelist screen writer mum article writer) being able to write for an actor, as an actor is very advantageous and acting the writers word in comprehension is needed also.

I am behind you Tasha, we all escape into an actors vision, we live vicariously in your roles, entertain us for we will be watching you with eager eyes.

Congratulations Tasha

Love a Proud Mama Sara

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Welcome to the new Art of Positive Living website

Welcome to the new Art of Positive Living website. We hope you enjoy it. Please send me Your Comments

Send me your articles for everyone to read, every one has a story, share yours with us. A story shared are answers for others. Wisdom is in people journey’s.

Please check out the many work shops that I offer and see which one is for you. True understanding of who we really are and how we interact with every one in our lives is most essential. True Colours testing of your personality aids you in knowing who you are and in what way other perceive you. 

Book an appointment to day and walk away with a clarity that will see you through your life.

I look forward to getting to know you.

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Influences of books and other wisdoms

I cannot claim that all my knowledge comes from the universe, God or life’s lessons. One comes to an understanding only to be posed another question. Some times we find those answers with in our selves, and some times we need to ask others to direct us to the answer. We do have all that we need to know with in our selves through our souls, but do not know always how to access the search engine.

It is like Yahoo or Google, the saying just “Google it” its saying that somewhere out there some one has uploaded the information for us all to access. The universe in a Google so is our connection to God, but a way of knowing what to ask for in order to receive the answer often comes from some one else’s journey.

In my journey I have first hand dealt with a lot, but without sharing it with people I would not have known how far I have come or have acknowledged my strides. My life’s experience also have been found through some profound reading that has enlightened me and posed the questions so that I can comprehend the answers.

I love mythical books that take you on a journey deep into the parallels of life. Escaping the reality on ones day and going into another time and space helps you to get outside of your self, look at life from a totally new prospective. Movies are the same escape, and if we are lucky we will always find an answer to our confused state of mind even if it is senseless shallow movie or book.

Books are good for me; reading is my education and my inspiration and a place to relate and a place to cry. It does not matter why you read, but reading is a wonderful place to find ones answers. I read mystery’s, who done its and fantasy. I even love a good bio, again you learn about yourself through other people’s journeys. In the last few years I have taken to reading some self-awareness books, and I am going to tell you what I learned from them as well as encourage you to explore these books yourself for your own self-discovery.

“Who moved my cheese” by Spencer Johnson MD   this is a brilliant book on how to accept change. He first bought it to light for businesses under going cooperate changes. But it applies to every one who has an issue of any kind in changing ones direction. It got so popular he did one just for children, which is marvelous for all the upheavals and changes a child goes through in life.

The cheese reference is a metaphor for what you have in life, the maze is where you look for what you want, it is about 4 characters, 2 represented by mice, 2 by small humans. In parallel to True Colour characters, I found these persons to be identical. It gave me insight to how each colour person accepted change and what got in their way.  It is an easy quick read and I highly recommend it.

Another one of his books “YES OR NO” deals with our process of deciding and why we find it so hard to make decisions in our lives. Most of the time we get paralyzed by the question. Or can only see some thing from one prospective. If we learn to “get all the facts by first stopping the poor decision you understand that there are other views to the question and therefore not so intimidating.

You must first avoid indecision don’t just settle for a decision if it does not sit right with your heart. Do not avoid a decision just because it is hard, look at it differently, ask your self-questions and change the angle so you can see it from a different view.  All actions are our choice; if we react it is a choice even if not an acknowledged one. Some where in our brains and heart we act on some thing by a choice that is so automatic we are unaware of it.

“Happiness is a Choice” by Barry Neil Kaufman, who took his autistic son whom society and the medical profession had written of, form a child who was trapped in his own world and could not communicate with the out side world, to a person with straight A’s in collage. They help others release their own children from their inner jail into living live  persons with communication and free will.

He also wrote “Son Rise” which was made into a movie which I have seen but I have not read the book yet, but found the book on choices to be very enlightening. I intuitive know all this knowledge, it is within me and all around me, but when you are stuck in the mud of indecision, it is very hard to listen to ones inner voice. You get to entangled by the turmoil of it all that all you can see is a tornado of confusion and inner upheaval.

It really is very simple, in order to make an accurate decision; you first must make a choice to open your mind to all the information that you need to make that right decision. When we ground our selves so firmly in chaos we cannot think straight or clearly. It starts with a simple choice to let go release it all and then tune in. Simple! Yes.

I have a hiatus hernia, many women have them, babies can cause them when the push your innards to highly up into your chest, it creates a tear which over time and stressful episodes in your life, allows the acids to cause real pain in your upper chest through to your back. Mine was keeping me awake at night; I could not lie down or wear a tight bra with out feeling that a hot rod had been plunged into my chest coming out the other end. Graphic I know, but I want you to know how it really felt, because after reading Happiness is a Choice, I decided to talk to my hernia and to my stomach acids and tell them that there services was no longer needed. I had let go and address the hernia issue by addressing the real issues which was fear.

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Oprah asked Maya what she thought of growing older.

 In April, Maya Angelou was interviewed by Oprah on her 70+ birthday. Oprah asked her what she thought of growing older.

> And, there on television, she said it was “exciting.” Regarding body changes, she said there were many, occurring every day…like her breasts. They seem to be in a race to see which will reach her waist, first.
The audience laughed so hard they cried. She is such a simple and honest woman, with so much wisdom in her words!

> Maya Angelou said this:

> “I’ve learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.”

> “I’ve learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights.” 

> “I’ve learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you’ll miss them when they’re gone from your life.” 

> “I’ve learned that making a “living” is not the same thing as “making a life.”

> “I’ve learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.”

> “I’ve learned that you shouldn’t go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw some things back.”

> “I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.”

> “I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’ t have to be one.” 

> “I’ve learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.”

> “I’ve learned that I still have a lot to learn.”

> “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Feelings are what we truly live by, so pass this feeling on to someone else and make them feel good too.  Hugs and smiles every one.

 

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